First of all, we are all made differently. And that's a freaking fact! So can we please all just remember that and not judge?!
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| All different. And that's good! #sexy |
Second of all, making judgements, or comments on someones body is probably the worst thing you can do... especially complementing someone on a certain aspect. What the hell. Trust me everyone does it, even me. And it's not cool, it's really unfair.
I will use myself in all these examples just to make things easier.
Example # 1: "Oh KagZter, have you lost weight?Looking good"
Awnser/thoughts running through my head: Hummm no, actually I gained 10 pounds. This is awkward... is that a sign I should be losing weight and start thinking about counting my calories and watching what I eat? Ok, sometimes it's genuine, but you know what I mean.
Example # 2: "Hey Girl, you're starting to grow a six pack"
Anwser/thoughts runnning through my head: hummmm and what about my ass? I mean I have been squatting for the last 3 years now, I think my ass should be the first thing you notice... Should I be working harder, squatting more, deadlifting more? Am I doing something wrong?
Example # 3: "I hate cellulite... it's because we don't have enough muscle"
Awnser/thoughts running through my head: Are you fucking kidding me? NOT ENOUGH MUSCLE? How much fucking weight do you want me to lift? Not enough muscle... Where the fuck do you read your shit? Here, read this instead: The dirty little secret.
Then, there's this thing girls do, judge other girls when they eat. I would kill them. I hate it so god damm much. Who fucking cares if that chick is on a diet? And who cares if that girl is eating a hamburger with fries and mayo? Uh? Who cares? If I feel like eating a shit load of bad stuff I'm aloud, And if I feel like eating just lettuce, I'm aloud. It's my body, I do what the fuck I want to do with it. Are we clear?
Then there's the "I heard that"," I read this article"," I saw that" comments. I don't know what or who your sources are, but what is coming out of your mouth is bullshit. Just stop. Eat what makes you feel good about yourself, not what others tried and didn't like. Be your own Guinea pig. Try things, if you feel like your body isn't responding well then stop it. And if you feel like your body is responding well to the foods your putting in your body, then keep eating those foods. You shouldn't feel bad and stop eating something because Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz said you shouldn't.
Body image.
Two words that when put together, people get scared and start freaking out. No one is ever good enough eh? I mean, myself, I seem confident and proud of my body because I keep shaking my ass all the time even though it's huge, but then sometimes, when I'm alone I look at myself in the mirror and I wonder what it would be like if I was 30 pounds lighter. If I had smaller calves, maybe I'd be able to wear high boots or skinny jeans. And If I had Camille Leblancs Body, I would never wear a shirt, ever. I'd be boss! We all want something that we don't have. Why do we envy people like that?
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| Boss, Camille |
Self confidence.
Another two great, powerful words. I learned to love my big butt. It's part of who I am and most probably will be for the rest of my life. I learned to embrace my big arms as well. Why? Because I understood at some point in my life that, if I was frail and gentle, I wouldn't be able to do crossfit, weightlifting, skiing the way I like to ski, hard and fast. I also wouldn't be able to be happy all the time and I wouldn't have the energy I have now if I wasn't able to do all those things. Obviously I'm not running around naked all the time, because, still to this day I lack self confidence. But who runs around naked anyways? That could be awkward....
We live in a really fucked up world. Too much judging, too many comments, too many fakes and phonies out there that make us all, girls and boys, think and think and rethink about our body image and destroys our self confidence.
And as I say this, it's funny, because the only place other then the comfort of my own home where I feel good about myself, about my body, and where I'm mostly confident is when I'm at the gym. Where, by the way, I look like shit, wearing head bands, no makeup, sweating like a pig, wearing colourful spandex that do not at all make me look thinner. It's also the one place where the hottest guys hangout. So why is it that I feel good about myself there when I'm my most disgusting self? I really don't know. Maybe, it's because everyone at the gym is there for the same reason... Performance. We really don't give a shit about what we look like when we train... but we most certainly care about how much weight is going over head or how much time we can take off our next Fran. That's pretty much what I think about... I don't really care if you can see my underwear line in my spandex, that's if I'm wearing underwear (haha jokes). And do you really think I care about what my face looks like when I just PR'd on my snatch ? I don't think so.
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| Not at all attractive. |
I really hope, that one day, my crossfit friends, my non crossfit friends, my weightlifting friends, my yoga and pilates friends would just be happy about their bodies. I really wish that. I mean, who are we kidding, none of us will ever look like Gisèle, or whatever her name is. Let's just get over it right now and move on. Enjoy life, enjoy food, enjoy exercise and be confident that your body let's you do things you want to do. Stop reading magazines and watching Dr. Oz. It's called making money for a living.
And remember, the important thing here is that we live a healthy life. And all this shit that were saying and thinking is really just leading us into mental distress and that is unhealthy. It's exhausting always thinking about how we look. It sucks.
Feels good to be off my chest.
I'm making myself a burger.
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| I'm hungry. |
Peace
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ReplyDeleteIt's absolutely brutal in my sport how much we judge others, and how much we are getting judged. Walking around all day in the tightest training suit possible, way up our butt, exposing the most skin as possible to get a sexier tan!
I'm about 10-15 pounds heavier than last summer, which is perfectly normal since it had been the most intense training year leading to the most important competition of my life. Now, I still eat very healthy on a regular basis, but I eat out more, I drink more and I just don't have the time or the heart to train 30 hours a week. I'm only training 22 hours a week...Only. Nobody asks if I got stronger or if my injuries have healed, instead it's always along the lines of "oh, are you still training? what happened?" Well I feel healthier physically and mentally than ever, and it's the only thing that matters. Actually, I'm sure that I could be much much skinnier if I stopped lifting and stopped eating for a while, and I'd feel absolutely terrible about myself, but hey, yay approval of others?!
I totally agree with everything you are saying, but i'd like to show you another point of view, what is it like to be in the other position. I'm a tall and skinny girl. 4 years ago, i was on the edge of anorexia; 95lbs for 5'8''. And smoking. I decided to start crossfit after trying it with my sister and it was love at first class; the atmosphere, the people, the energy. It was just a crowd i wanted to be part off and I found all those muscular bodies so impressive and attractive. My first coach thought I wouldn't stay long ''On dirait que tu vas partir au vent!'' but I wanted to show him I could do whatever I put my mind too, and i did. My first deadlift was with a 20lbs barbell... and i was exhausted after 10 reps. I've been working hard, very hard. Going to the gym 4 times a week, couldn't do more because it was too tiring for such a little body as mine.Today, I am 135lbs and I can deadlift 200lbs, clean and jerk 110lbs and snatch 85lbs which i'm so proud of. I can do 20 unbroken pull ups, did my first bar muscle up a week ago and practicing my hspu as often as possible (ok yes, i still use 2 abmats underneath my head). And you know what I find funny? Me too, I still feel judged. People seem to think that it must be so much easier to be in my skin, they dont know how much work it took to achieve my goals and where I come from. As funny as it may sound, I envy big butts and strong shoulders. People dont believe me when I say I crossfit and explain the whole thing. I have to justify, to show them videos of myself in action to prove them what i'm capable off. Because I'm still small and still got that fragile frame I hate so much. I have sometimes this little voice inside my head telling me that is not for me, that I should stick to yoga, cycling or running with my body type... Its a daily battle. But than again, I just want to lift that heavy piece of iron and prove everybody, most importantly myself, that I can do whatever I put my mind to, because I can.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do, wherever you come from and whatever you look like, people will judge. Big butts, small butts, booty shorts, neon leggings...(!) Its your choice in the end to pay attention to it, and its hard not to. People want an explanation and usually the simplest one: she has big calves, of course its easy! Oh Oh she is skinny and taking off her shirt, what a show off... And after all, this is just jealousy, comparison because (i dont know who once said that, but that person's smart) '' Judging people doesn't define who they are, it defines who YOU are''.
I'll see you at the DelliFraine this week end ;)
Thank you Petite Madame!!!!! I agree with you, and it's good to know that some women want to get bigger and stronger!!!! I love muscle, what can I say! Good job on putting on that weight! that's impressive, and keep being proud!!!
DeleteYes, we will definatly see each other at the delli fraine! WOOT!